Student a teacher of martial
by Andrew Shurtleff
Parmar Kyosah-Nim Bobby to his Tae Kwon-Do
By Virginia E. Carter
is one of the five tenets of Tae Kwon-Do. That quality emerged
quickly in young Bidhan Parmar.
he was 12 and had been taking classes at the International Black
Belt Center in Charlottesville for about a year, he found himself
without a ride one day. Not wanting
to miss class, he called a taxi and paid the fare himself.
five tenets of Tae Kwon-Do are:
a second-degree black belt, Parmar continues to discipline his
body and mind with the almost daily practice of this ancient Korean
martial art. He also enjoys teaching children and adults. Gentle
yet commanding, he alternates between cajoling, praising, reprimanding
and humoring as he pushes students to sharpen their mental and
not only pushing the students. Im also pushing myself,
said Parmar, who likes the fact that Tae Kwon-Do involves competition
with himself instead of with others. Ive learned that
you have to keep trying. You have to push through those things
that are difficult. In Tae Kwon-Do, you are forced to deal with
issues right then and there. Its a skill thats valuable
and easily transfers to other areas of life.
who goes by Bobby, has become a popular teacher and
fellow student with many from the U.Va. community who take Tae
Kwon-Do classes at the Charlottesville center.
has this wonderful gift, said Ed Freeman, one of Parmars
students who teaches at the Darden
School and directs the Olsson Center for Applied Ethics. Freeman,
his wife and three children all train at the International Black
Belt Center and have come to know Parmar.
Kwon-Do is hard, added Freeman. Bobby works hard.
He is smart, mature and really gifted when it comes to teaching.
Its rare to find a young man you want to serve as a role
model for your children, but Bobby is truly that a role
Since entering U.Va., Parmar has developed an even deeper relationship
with Freeman. Parmar continues to mentor Freeman in Tae Kwon-Do,
but Freeman now has become a mentor, teacher and adviser to Parmar
as well. Partially through Freemans influence, Parmar has
changed his career path from medicine to business ethics.
studies major, Parmar plans to earn an M.B.A. and eventually
a doctorate in business. With special permission from Freeman,
he took advanced courses in ethics and one Ph.D.-level course
in strategic management. Working for Freeman last summer, he wrote
case studies on subjects such as Napster that Freeman used in
one of his M.B.A. classes. In addition, he designed an undergraduate
course in science, business and ethics for Freeman.
interest in children has led him to co-author a childrens
book with his girlfriend, an elementary school counselor whom
he met through Tae Kwon-Do. Not yet published, Madison Changes
Her Mind tells of a young girl who learns to stop being
angry all the time by changing how she thinks.
storys theme of self-development bears many similarities
to the teachings of Tae Kwon-Do. At the end of every class, teacher
and students gather in a circle. When he is the teacher, Parmar
often reminds his students of the five tenets of Tae Kwon-Do:
courtesy, integrity, perseverance, self-control and indomitable
words may be beyond the grasp of students as young as 5 or 6,
but they can see what those qualities mean when they watch their
role model, Bobby Parmar.